Friends For How Long

How well do we know some one?
Can we base a year or more of friend ship and say we truly know them?

If you revise the friends that you have now how many can you see your self knowing in five years time?

I say this knowing as I write, I am drifting further and further away from the friends that I love and cherish,

knowing that I will only see a few of them once or twice now in the coming months, their is only one or two that I will be friends with in five years and that is only a guess coming from me.

I might not even know any of them at all!

Is it the cycle of life that we lose the people we love as friends and replace with the people we fall in love with?

As I said two articles ago in EXPIRATION FRIENDS,

But maybe it is a good thing to lose some friends, Some times

as we grow older we do take different interests and invalidly different paths.

It is sad when we do drift but maybe sometimes it is for the best a life choice that will bring a new direction

a breath of fresh air to our stale lives for there are different sections to our lives broken up with friends in each category

Baby friends

School friends

After school friends

Work friends

But as I have notice with the older generations that their last friend is the

partner that they spend the rest of their lives with is this true?

will we all eventually drop all our friends just to be with one person the love of our life?

JUDGEMENT OF OTHERS

Today I want to talk about how we see people.

I am in my last year of school and the way I have seen some people behave down the years is shocking.

Now don’t get me wrong. I have moved with the cliques and changed to try and be accepted but as a small few of us have learnt near the end of our school lives (sadly some still have not learned it in later life) you get accepted for who you are, not who other people want you to be.

Do some people just have such a need to be accepted that they will do anything? Backstab their true friends to get in with the so called popular kids - the people who will bring you into a world of fake smiles and back stabbing……?

Sorry but that is no way to be.

I was like that once. I did things that were just not me just to be accepted - got the feeling of belonging yet, as I learned it was not a good feeling, I was always below the people in the clique ... the lack dog as you would say, till one day I said I’ll be myself, make friends that like me for who I am and not who they want me to be.

Now it has been two years since that decision and I couldn’t be happier.

Having people around you who are easy to be around, whom you can joke with and not have to watch what you say around - that is a group you should be in. They are your friends.

It saddens me when I walk around the school and see that some of the kids going around changing themselves, making fun of other kids and bullying them for the way they look or for their hair, hell or for just trying something new - and for what? Just to get a laugh? To get ahead in the group that was doing that to them the year previous?

In this social circle of life why do we want to be those people of no trust, talking behind each others backs and making fun of everyone who is the tiniest bit different to people outside their clique?

So next time you find yourself running around after people to be accepted, ask yourself why do you want to be accepted into that if they cant accept you for who you are inside and out?

EXPIRATION FRIENDS

I was talking to a friend of mine recently and she asked a puzzling question to me “are we friends?”

So this got me thinking on a subject for you see we both go to school together we hang out and go shopping and share secrets so what are the chances off seeing one another after we both graduate? So here is the question do you have friends with expiration dates

Work friends

School friends

Best friends

Aquaintance friends

But expiration friends can we put a date on friendship?

are we as lhuman beings become so robotic with our feels that we feel the need to discarded after a certain date? Like cleaning out your room do we clean out our lives our friends our social network as we know it?

Is friendship becoming just another fad until we find the right one for use?

Like take a friend of mine she's a great friend and a wonderful person to be around, yet one of her best friends has a boyfriend now and has completely discarded her and will only talk to her when her boyfriend is not around, are friends just here to amuse us?

Occupy the time until the love of now comes back?

Now I put this to you how many friends have u let go?

lost contact with?

let drift into he abyss of no return? The person you pass on the street and notice your feet moving faster, your skin going numb, yet there is not one signal reason for this to happen, yous never finished on a bad note were always but then the “drift of life” just kicks in. Or if you do happen to stop and say hi to them or vise versa and say how are you doing with a few short words then the most common experience to happen the 5.5 seconds silence and the glad to see you awkward glance in the other direction fake smile and the bye bye hope not to see you again.

Now if you have ever had an experience like that you know what I am talking about the friend that got away no reason behind it if you have never had an experience like that you are a very lucky person

Over the years I have had countless friends fall into the abyss without a reason just stopped talking and it dose make me feel sad as I write knowing that some of them were some of my best friends.

I am hoping it dose not happen again to the friends I have now.

Which is why I ask you if you do have an expiration friend or a friend that is heading for the abyss, don’t let it happen it is a sad day when friend disappears

High Heels What Is In Your Mind?

As I got in the door and thought about my night that had just passed (valentine’s night) out on the town with two of my friends - who both came out in high heels and of course as you might have expected without wearing any of those gel pads that are advertised on T.V

I just couldn’t understand why on earth (or should I say only on earth) would a woman walk around in high heels that in less than one hour would cause their feet to be as raw red as...nothing else comes to mind that can be that raw red.

Now as you would have expected anyone going out on the town would wear something stylish and comfortable not two inch death traps.

Now as you can expect, the girls armed with these death traps ended up in my arms being staybled and holding on to for dear life as we stumbled across roads and catapulted down steps with not even a drop of alcohol on us just armed with the death traps. Now as I was frightened for the girls’ lives I found myself throwing my arms out to steady these damsels in distress and hoping to god I was fast enough to catch them.

By the end of the night we had ended up walking around just trying to get into clubs and the girls just biting through the pain and near the end of the night to my other shock one of the girls said to the other lets switch shoes so we can
1. heighten our pain to new places
and

2. Hope to god it takes away from the pain that your other high heels have caused

Now women of the world (and some men) why is this pain and self punishment so important to you? Fine I will agree they look stylish but lets just say you’re at a club looking for a man. Who do you think he is going to make a move on - the girl riling in pain or the one dancing and having fun? Or if you are out with your man would he think himself as selfish as to ask you to dance knowing it would bring your pain to the extreme ?

So women of the world answer the question that has confounded men for the 21^st century

why the pain?

Why the torture?

And why, most of all did you not wear the gel pad?