JUDGEMENT OF OTHERS

Today I want to talk about how we see people.

I am in my last year of school and the way I have seen some people behave down the years is shocking.

Now don’t get me wrong. I have moved with the cliques and changed to try and be accepted but as a small few of us have learnt near the end of our school lives (sadly some still have not learned it in later life) you get accepted for who you are, not who other people want you to be.

Do some people just have such a need to be accepted that they will do anything? Backstab their true friends to get in with the so called popular kids - the people who will bring you into a world of fake smiles and back stabbing……?

Sorry but that is no way to be.

I was like that once. I did things that were just not me just to be accepted - got the feeling of belonging yet, as I learned it was not a good feeling, I was always below the people in the clique ... the lack dog as you would say, till one day I said I’ll be myself, make friends that like me for who I am and not who they want me to be.

Now it has been two years since that decision and I couldn’t be happier.

Having people around you who are easy to be around, whom you can joke with and not have to watch what you say around - that is a group you should be in. They are your friends.

It saddens me when I walk around the school and see that some of the kids going around changing themselves, making fun of other kids and bullying them for the way they look or for their hair, hell or for just trying something new - and for what? Just to get a laugh? To get ahead in the group that was doing that to them the year previous?

In this social circle of life why do we want to be those people of no trust, talking behind each others backs and making fun of everyone who is the tiniest bit different to people outside their clique?

So next time you find yourself running around after people to be accepted, ask yourself why do you want to be accepted into that if they cant accept you for who you are inside and out?

EXPIRATION FRIENDS

I was talking to a friend of mine recently and she asked a puzzling question to me “are we friends?”

So this got me thinking on a subject for you see we both go to school together we hang out and go shopping and share secrets so what are the chances off seeing one another after we both graduate? So here is the question do you have friends with expiration dates

Work friends

School friends

Best friends

Aquaintance friends

But expiration friends can we put a date on friendship?

are we as lhuman beings become so robotic with our feels that we feel the need to discarded after a certain date? Like cleaning out your room do we clean out our lives our friends our social network as we know it?

Is friendship becoming just another fad until we find the right one for use?

Like take a friend of mine she's a great friend and a wonderful person to be around, yet one of her best friends has a boyfriend now and has completely discarded her and will only talk to her when her boyfriend is not around, are friends just here to amuse us?

Occupy the time until the love of now comes back?

Now I put this to you how many friends have u let go?

lost contact with?

let drift into he abyss of no return? The person you pass on the street and notice your feet moving faster, your skin going numb, yet there is not one signal reason for this to happen, yous never finished on a bad note were always but then the “drift of life” just kicks in. Or if you do happen to stop and say hi to them or vise versa and say how are you doing with a few short words then the most common experience to happen the 5.5 seconds silence and the glad to see you awkward glance in the other direction fake smile and the bye bye hope not to see you again.

Now if you have ever had an experience like that you know what I am talking about the friend that got away no reason behind it if you have never had an experience like that you are a very lucky person

Over the years I have had countless friends fall into the abyss without a reason just stopped talking and it dose make me feel sad as I write knowing that some of them were some of my best friends.

I am hoping it dose not happen again to the friends I have now.

Which is why I ask you if you do have an expiration friend or a friend that is heading for the abyss, don’t let it happen it is a sad day when friend disappears