Friends For How Long

How well do we know some one?
Can we base a year or more of friend ship and say we truly know them?

If you revise the friends that you have now how many can you see your self knowing in five years time?

I say this knowing as I write, I am drifting further and further away from the friends that I love and cherish,

knowing that I will only see a few of them once or twice now in the coming months, their is only one or two that I will be friends with in five years and that is only a guess coming from me.

I might not even know any of them at all!

Is it the cycle of life that we lose the people we love as friends and replace with the people we fall in love with?

As I said two articles ago in EXPIRATION FRIENDS,

But maybe it is a good thing to lose some friends, Some times

as we grow older we do take different interests and invalidly different paths.

It is sad when we do drift but maybe sometimes it is for the best a life choice that will bring a new direction

a breath of fresh air to our stale lives for there are different sections to our lives broken up with friends in each category

Baby friends

School friends

After school friends

Work friends

But as I have notice with the older generations that their last friend is the

partner that they spend the rest of their lives with is this true?

will we all eventually drop all our friends just to be with one person the love of our life?

JUDGEMENT OF OTHERS

Today I want to talk about how we see people.

I am in my last year of school and the way I have seen some people behave down the years is shocking.

Now don’t get me wrong. I have moved with the cliques and changed to try and be accepted but as a small few of us have learnt near the end of our school lives (sadly some still have not learned it in later life) you get accepted for who you are, not who other people want you to be.

Do some people just have such a need to be accepted that they will do anything? Backstab their true friends to get in with the so called popular kids - the people who will bring you into a world of fake smiles and back stabbing……?

Sorry but that is no way to be.

I was like that once. I did things that were just not me just to be accepted - got the feeling of belonging yet, as I learned it was not a good feeling, I was always below the people in the clique ... the lack dog as you would say, till one day I said I’ll be myself, make friends that like me for who I am and not who they want me to be.

Now it has been two years since that decision and I couldn’t be happier.

Having people around you who are easy to be around, whom you can joke with and not have to watch what you say around - that is a group you should be in. They are your friends.

It saddens me when I walk around the school and see that some of the kids going around changing themselves, making fun of other kids and bullying them for the way they look or for their hair, hell or for just trying something new - and for what? Just to get a laugh? To get ahead in the group that was doing that to them the year previous?

In this social circle of life why do we want to be those people of no trust, talking behind each others backs and making fun of everyone who is the tiniest bit different to people outside their clique?

So next time you find yourself running around after people to be accepted, ask yourself why do you want to be accepted into that if they cant accept you for who you are inside and out?